Sunday, February 7, 2010

What Valentine's Day Should Be

Valentine's Day, February 14th, is on Sunday this year. That probably will mean less deliveries to one's workplace, and more going out to dinner this weekend. Money will be spent and loving attention will be paid to that special someone . . perhaps on the day itself, or the entire weekend. After it's over, it's back to the same old routines. How sad is that!

I propose that we make an effort to keep the intent of Valentine's Day alive and well all year long, not just with our loved ones, but with others as well, by keeping the spirit of holiday in caring for all. I'm willing to try. How about you?

Here's a peek at some of my guests on Coffee Chat who care for others in their own special way. More reasons to tune in to WKXL1450 am and 103.9 fm every day.

The Concord Coachmen Barbershoppers have five quartets that will be delivering music and love for Valentine's Day again this year (two days really, Friday the 12th and Sunday the 14th). They sang for us as my guests on the show on Friday and literally brought me to tears. Check out what they offer:

The Community Players of Concord are at it again. They're ready to make us laugh to help us get through the cold winter month of February with a perfect Valentine date. Go see their production of "The Underpants". Pat Delzell, the Director of the show, will be on Coffee Chat this Friday, Feb. 12, which is the opening day of show.

Kathy Salanitro is the owner of Ox-K Farm. What an interesting story she had to share with us a few weeks ago. What became the love of pets in raising oxen on her farm, developed in her work with children and teens interacting with the oxen to help them find their inner strength and build their self confidence. Her caring for others and for these animals makes it Valentine's Day every day at her farm in Gilford.
Above is a photo of "Jake" talking to Kathy. Visit her website:

Want to know what's happening with Kimball Jenkins Estate since their recent public forum?
Tune in on Monday, February 8th. You'll also learn the history of Carolyn Jenkins who left the wonderful gift of the estate to the community.

Saturday, January 2, 2010

In 2010: Look for the Good

A few months ago, I bumped into a friend and we got to talking about what makes for a good marriage. She and her husband (who happens to be a marriage counselor, so I knew she would have some insight into the subject), have been married for several years, and my husband and I are heading for our 39th year this September. I was surprised at how quickly she answered. It was as though she knew without a doubt of this profound approach to a happy marriage and was eager to share it with me. She said quite simply, "Always look for the good." I remember nodding in agreement, for I instantly knew what she meant. I had practiced this, (most often accidentally), over the years, but without giving it much thought. Since then, it's been on my mind constantly, not only in my marriage, but in dealing with everyone and everything in my life. It seems to be working, so I'm sharing with you and making it one of my new year's resolutions.

Here are a couple of examples on how "looking for the good" has helped me see things in a more positive light. Each night, at around 9:15 pm 'ish", my husband falls asleep in his favorite lounge chair. Now this happens to be "our time", when we watch a movie, or a favorite TV show, and I like to talk about our day. Typically, I would nudge him and try to wake him up. But one night, I tried to look for that good. I thought, "he works so hard all day and deserves this small break." And I thought how cute he looked with his glasses askew and hearing the light puffing noises he makes prior to an occasional snore. And then it happened . . . instead of frustration and anger, I was filled with love and warmth. I looked for the good and that's all I saw. It worked!

Here's the second example. While at Disney World last week on a family vacation, we found ourselves at the Magic Kingdom on Christmas day in the pouring rain, trying to find shelter along with THOUSANDS of others who also thought it would be a great idea to visit the Florida attraction on December 25th. Where indeed was the good in this situation? Instead of focusing on the frustration and discomfort, I thought how funny we looked in our yellow rain slickers, like a family of ducks. It made me smile and remember that we were building memories that we would certainly laugh at in the future.

I always look for the good when I seek out and interview guests on community TV and radio. There's a lot of good happening out there. So why shouldn't I do the same for those closest to me: my family, co-workers, neighbors, employers, etc. I think you know what I mean. It may sound simplistic, because it is!

Happy New Year!